Some Real Talk: Why Must We Tear Ourselves and Each Other Down???

Today's blog really has nothing to do with hair, fashion, shopping, or beauty. I'm writing to day out of complete irritation with the African American female population especially my generation. Nothing gets under my skin more than women who have no type of value for themselves and like to bring other women down with them. Everyday I hear women say (including myself) that they are no good men out there. Well the reason that there isn't much to choose from is because, we as women don't up hold our standards and go along with what every foolishness men dish out, all for attention. And what we don't realize is that we are just making it hard for all females. Do you think men would cheat and sleep around if they didn't have anyone to be triflin with??? Honestly, I can't wrap my head around it. Maybe it's my up bringing in the church, or just how I was raised. How can you sleep with a man who you know is married or in a relationship???? Even more so, the question of the century is, how can you even sleep with a man who you know for a fact that some one you consider your friend was involved with?????? Why would you even want to share that? That is beyond nasty and triflin. Do you not have any value for your friends, relationship, or your body??????? The thing that I really can stomach is the one's who brag about it and have no shame. The ones who think it's cute and just do wayyyy too in the presence of men to allude very clear what they can do under the sheets.What ever happened to morals and charm??????? Do you not know that if you behave in that manner that that's all you are going to get in return? If that's you portray yourself as, that's all your going to get in return. My beautiful queens you are worth so much than that. When are we going get back to being women that men would be pround to have on their arm and not just the back burner chick? This is something that has sadden my for years, there are too many young beautiful women in the world (especially African Americans) who don't know their worth, and are looking for love and all the wrong attention. Don't get me wrong I am no where near perfect, but what happen to sex being something special. Let me tell you some thing, and I'm saying this from experience, as women, we can not just have sex with no emotion....it's not going to happen. Men can do it, but we can't. When a woman has sex with a man there is a soul tie created. If a women is just having sex with every Tom, Dick, Harry, and Jane...there is a deeper issue...she's looking for something and just destorying herself in the process. I think every woman should watch Junita Bynum's sermon entitled "No More Sheets." It's YouTube. I can't post the link right now because I'm at work and YouTube is blocked but I will post it as soon as possible.